Monday, July 4, 2011
Friday, July 1, 2011
What can you do?
What can you do when one of your kids is dating a complete douche bag? Apparently, if you don't want to lock her in her room, absolutely nothing. When a teen girl is convinced that she's in love, there's no talking any sense in to her. Believe me, I've tried. What I've learned is, that I don't know shit about being a teenager in love. I mean, I was never a teenager and I never thought I was in love right? PFFFTTTTTT!
I talked and talked until I was out of breath. I told her (true) stories about my first love and how I had our entire future all planned out. How the man I'm married to is not my first love (thank God) and how I understand exactly how she's feeling right now. I should have just saved my breath. I'm an idiot because how can I not see that this relationship is different and special? Of course it is. DUH. Silly me!
What I do find incredibly sad is that this young, beautiful girl lacks the self esteem to realize that this guy she thinks she's in love with is a complete tool. He lies, cheats, is a poor student and overall has nothing going for him. I also find it sad that she has become an unbearable bitch and has alienated herself from most of her friends and family. I know this relationship is completely unhealthy and maybe even emotionally abusive (both ways). Their relationship is making me physically ill... so I've decided I need to step back and let it play out. I was trying to save her from some heartache, but in the process, I fear that I've driven a bigger wedge between us and I'm tired of feeling the need to throw up all the time.
Before you (you being nobody, since nobody is reading this) attack me and my parenting, let me be clear that this is my niece. I love her as if she were one of my biological daughters, but it's not enough. That's becoming more apparent by the behavior she displays. I thought we took custody of her at a young enough age to save her from major issues... but I'm really starting to believe the nature versus nurture theories.
I talked and talked until I was out of breath. I told her (true) stories about my first love and how I had our entire future all planned out. How the man I'm married to is not my first love (thank God) and how I understand exactly how she's feeling right now. I should have just saved my breath. I'm an idiot because how can I not see that this relationship is different and special? Of course it is. DUH. Silly me!
What I do find incredibly sad is that this young, beautiful girl lacks the self esteem to realize that this guy she thinks she's in love with is a complete tool. He lies, cheats, is a poor student and overall has nothing going for him. I also find it sad that she has become an unbearable bitch and has alienated herself from most of her friends and family. I know this relationship is completely unhealthy and maybe even emotionally abusive (both ways). Their relationship is making me physically ill... so I've decided I need to step back and let it play out. I was trying to save her from some heartache, but in the process, I fear that I've driven a bigger wedge between us and I'm tired of feeling the need to throw up all the time.
Before you (you being nobody, since nobody is reading this) attack me and my parenting, let me be clear that this is my niece. I love her as if she were one of my biological daughters, but it's not enough. That's becoming more apparent by the behavior she displays. I thought we took custody of her at a young enough age to save her from major issues... but I'm really starting to believe the nature versus nurture theories.
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